Most of the physical pursuits of life (Ecclesiastes) are substitutes for what we really need - a relationship with God
"Whatever was to my profit I now consider loss for the sake of Christ" - Philippians 3:7-11
The answer - to be totally immersed in my relationship with God through Christ
To know God in such a way and at such a level that all else pales into comparision
When this level is reached, nothing else will matter:
Not position
Not recognition
Not performance
Not respect
Fear of death will lose its hold
"For to me to live is Christ and to die is gain" - Philippians 1:21
Thankful books
Do it just before going to bed every night
God is too good for us not express gratitude
Ideas: come up with 7 areas of gratitude and incorporate one area into your prayers each day