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Restore a friendship
March 31st, 2013Why retore a friendship?
- Relationships are worth restoring
- God has called us to be peacemakers
- God gave his son to restore his relationship with you
- Peacemaking does not mean appeasement
- Peacemaking does not mean avoiding conflict
What hinders
- Unbelief
- That God is and has been control of all situations in your life
- Stops us from receiving what God has to offer
- We are all believing something – Choices:
- I believe that God will answer my prayer
- I don’t believe that God will answer my prayer
- Belief is a decision not an emotion
- Lack of Faith
- Faith is belief in action
- Without faith you can not please God
- Faith and worry do not go together
- Worry
- God wants to supply all our needs
- Make God happy
- to heal all your wounds
- deliver you from all evil power
- to give you all you need
- Lack prayer
- One can not pray about this until
- Talk to God before talking to the person
- Pray first instead of gossiping to a friend
- Tell God your frustrations
- God can change hearts – yours and theirs
- Most conflicts are rooted in unmet needs – check to make sure your needs are met by God
- Many conflicts come from prayerlessness (James 4:1-2)
- Always take the initiative
- God expects you to make the first move
- Takes priority over worship (Matthew 5:23-24)
- Do not procrastinate, make excuses – delay deepens resentment
- Acting quickly reduces the spiritual damage to you
- Communication is the burden of the communicator
- You are only hurting yourself (Job 5:2)
- Sympathize with their feelings
- Use your ears more than your mouth
- Look out for others interest like your own - Philippians 2:4
- Focus on their feeling, not the facts
- Begin with sympathy, not solutions
- Feelings are not always true or logical
- It is sacrifice to absorb the anger of others – especially when they are unfounded (Romans 15:2)
- Confess your part of the conflict
- Begin by praying with them
- Begin by admitting your own mistakes
- Ask God to show you
- “Am I being unrealistic, insensitive, or sensitive?”
- If claim to have no sin – we are fooling ourselves – 1 John 1:8
- Humbling admitting defuses a persons anger
- Do not beat around the bush
- Talk about how things made you feels
- Men: allow women to share first
- Do not make excuses or shift the blame
- Attack the problem, not the person
- How you say it is as important as what you say – Proverbs 15:1
- Cold War – must destroy our arms it is not worth destroying ourselves
- Cooperate as much as possible
- Sometimes it costs: Pride and Self-centeredness
- Emphasize reconciliation, not resolution
- Reconciliation focuses on the relationship, resolution focuses of the problem
- God expects unity, not uniformity
- It takes a lot of effort to restore a relationship (Us and Christ)