Quiet Time Notes
Notes from my daily Quiet Times with GodPurpose Driven Life - Restoring Broken Fellowship
June 13th, 2008Previous | Next
Relationships are always worth restoring
God has given us the ministry of restoring
God gave everything (his son) for restoring relationships
Does not mean avoiding conflict or appeasement
Talk to God before talking to the person
God may change your heart or their hear - James 4:1-2
Tell God your frustrations
Most conflict is rooted in unmet needs; some needs can only be meet by God
Always take the initiative
God expects you to make the first move - Matthew 5:23-24
Abandon your offering at the alter and go make things right first
Acting quickly reduces the spiritual damage
Bitterness is only hurting yourself
Sympathize with their feelings
Use your ears more than your mouth - Philippians 2:4
Focus on feelings and not facts
Start with sympathy, not solutions
Confess your part of the conflict
Ask "Am I the problem?" - Matthew 7:5
The way you handle a conflict creates a bigger hurt
Attack the problem, not the person
How you say it is important as what you say
Cold War - country decided on weapons that should never be used
Cooperate as much as possible - Romans 12:18
Sometime it cost our pride, self-centerness
Emphasize reconciliation, not resolution
Reconciliation focuses on the relationship
Takes a lot of effort to restore a relationship
