2008-11-23 - Raising Awesome Kids - Provision and Protection If anyone does not provide for his immediate family, he has denied the faith and is worse than an unbeliever - 1 Timothy 5:8 Our families should never have to worry about where the next meal is coming from Our Heavenly Father provides for all our physical needs - Matthew 6:25-34 We should not imitate him in caring for my children? He works his land , will have abundant food - Proverbs 28:19 Get adequate medical insurance - so you do not burden your family will major costs Takes care of things around the house Do the repair jobs and maintenance work Husbands who are lazy - kids will see this and either disrespect us or gladly imitate us in it Fathers are protectors If any family member is in a situation where they are being beaten down, overwhelmed - this is the time to act Should not shield them from the realities of life, but from the forces from which they become helpless |
2008-11-24 - Raising Awesome Kids - Training and Teaching Fathers, bring up your children up in the training and instruction of the Lord - Ephesians 6:4 We, as fathers, teach and train non-stop Do not underestimate the importance of teaching The worst mistake you can make is to do nothing Children love to learn Why else would God let us keep them for almost 20 years, but to train them |
2008-11-26 - Raising Awesome Kids - Liberty and Justice His brothers saw that their father loves him more and hated him - Genesis 37:4 Acquitting the guilty and condemning the innocent - the Lord detests both - Proverbs 17:15 We fathers must see that there is respect given to all Must rule justly in any areas of dispute Playing favorites is deadly Who must be respected? Mother - besides watch the children's respect, we must watch how we communicate with our spouse Younger and weaker children - Your role as dispenser of justice starts from day one and it is one of your most vital roles |
2008-11-27 - Raising Awesome Kids - Compassion and Caring God cares! Nothing too great or too small can escape his notice We also some be available to meet the needs of our family Otherwise, because they have given up trying to reach us, they will have no desire to talk to us anymore "Why can't I reach my kids?" - we weren't there when they reached for us God hurts for us and with us He looks for and has compassion for us - Luke 15:20 We need forgiveness and we need to grant it Our children are.... children Expect a lot, let them be kids - God is patient with us |
2008-11-28 - Raising Awesome Kids - Encouragement and Inspiration Fathers deals with his children with encouragement, comforting, and urgency of lives worthy of God - 1 Thessalonians 2:11-12 Life is hard, especially for kids - easy to lose heart There is a immense power in a father's encouragement Young Timothy -
By his encouragement, Timothy became the dynamic leader of the huge and powerful Ephesus church It is our jobs as fathers to assess our children's talents and gift and help them to excel in them Be a great inspirer and encourager of your children Let it be you who thinks they are great and who picks them up when they fall |
2008-11-30 - Raising Awesome Kids - Have Fun, Be Hip What is wrong with having fun? Nothing! Jesus was a fun person:
If we are fun people, our kids will have fun If we let them have fun they will love our leadership You need to be hip to what is happening We show love when we are interested in someone else's world Be coming all things to all men - 1 Corinthians 9:22 Take a look at the current youth scene and not ridicule it Confront the sin but accept the style |
2008-12-01 - Raising Awesome Kids - Love Love is of first importance. All else is secondary. Above all we should have love - 1 Peter 4:8 Lack of love, we are nothing - 1 Corinthians 13:1-3 We may lavish upon our children the finest things but if we do not make them feel loved, it is all to no avail If there is closeness and love between us and our kids, we have a place to stand and start for the battle of their hearts Build our families on love and our kids will be strong Kids are born with the capacity to love, but not all learn how |
2008-12-02 - Raising Awesome Kids - Teach Them About God's Love They should be taught from infancy that:
It shapes their whole view of life and reality Continue teaching, do not foist your past (if bad) on your child: They have been assigned a personal angel to look after them - Matthew 18:10 |
2008-12-03 - Raising Awesome Kids - Love Your Children For some, children are a burden Some, kill the unborn Withholding your love is killing them from the inside Many children their parents problems simply because they do not feel loved To those who are failing to love their children - now is the time to repent Otherwise you will ruin your children, wreck your life, and lose your chance of going to heaven Whoever welcomes a little child welcome me (Jesus) Whoever causes one of them to them to sin - better to a large millstone around your neck and drown in the sea - Matthew 18:5-6 |
2008-12-05 - Raising Awesome Kids - Love with your touch Jesus took the children in his arms, put his hands on them and blessed them - Mark 10:15-16 Jesus could have blessed the children from afar Unaffectionate families are cool, aloof and distant Examples: Prodigal son - Luke 15:20
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2008-12-06 - Raising Awesome Kids - Teach them to love others Kids who are showered with love must be taught to give it away Love and concern for others should be talked about often We can do far too much for them - creates self-centeredness The whole family is an instrument of God - God will use in us is a dark and lost world |
2008-12-07 - Raising Awesome Kids - Respect (part 1) Honor you father and mother so it may go well with you - Ephesians 6:2-3 The issue of respecting authority is critical - opposite is arrogant, haughty, cocky attitudes How can we tell if our chidlren are disrepectful?
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2008-12-08 - Raising Awesome Kids - Respect (part 2) How can we tell if our oldrer chidlren are disrepectful?
Our children honoring us is to show honor to God and his plan Claim your authority! Expect to respected! Children really want deep down inside - the confidence from knowing their limits |
2008-12-09 - Raising Awesome Kids - Obedience Must be taught and expected earily Children who are rebellious, defiant, and disobedient to parent later will demonstrate those same attitudes towards all authorities It is easiler to teach children to obey while they are yound than to begin later when the habit of disobedience is deeply established |
2008-12-10 - Raising Awesome Kids - Honesty (part 1) We must love the truth, accept the truth, live by the truth, and tell the truth Will perish if we refuse to love the truth and be saved - 2 Thessalonians 2:10 If children learn to accept the truth as children - they will be able to face their sins, repent of them, and be saved when they are older Satan is a liar and the father of lies - John 8:44
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2008-12-12 - Raising Awesome Kids - Winning Obedience from Children (part 1) Discipline your son and he will give you give - Proverbs 29:17 From the very beginning children should learn to obey Our will and word will be supreme Repeating ourselves and louder each time is not true obedience - find ourselves frustrated, weary, and resentful
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2008-12-17 - Raising Awesome Kids - Dreary Disobedience (part 1) Tearful, self-pity can drive parents to guilt, rage, and frustration - this is a form of disobedience Do everything without complaining of arging - Philippians 2:14-16
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2008-12-19 - Raising Awesome Kids - Power of Discipline (part 1) vWhat are we to do when our children disobey us?
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2008-12-21 - Raising Awesome Kids - Power of Discipline (part 3) What does the Bible say about spanking? He who spares the rod hates his son - Proverbs 13:24 Message is clear - Spanking is vaild, employed with wisdom and love
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2008-12-25 - Raising Awesome Kids - Gods Training Plan (part 3) These commandments... are to be upon your hearts (v. 6) Should train from the heart level Impress them on your children (v. 7) Training with the Scriptures must be done with great conviction, sincerity and earnestness Talk about them always (v. 7) Train consistantly - everywhere, anytime, anyplace About teaching our children how to live life - not nagging about their misdeeds Make it fun, doable, effective Most training should be spontaneous Never underestimate how many times we will have to say the same things over and over again |
2008-12-28 - Raising Awesome Kids - Nurturing Confidence (part 1) Early life is a long struggle for self-esteem Kids can be viciously cruel to one another If not watchful, we will be completely oblivious to difficulties our children are facing Wrong Foundations of Confidence Physical Appearance If we make it a big deal, we are setting u our children for problems They will gauge their self-worth on appearance and judge others that same way
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2008-12-29 - Raising Awesome Kids - Nurturing Confidence (part 2) Athletic prowess Very quickly, kids notice who is faster, stronger and more coorinated It is important for children to develop physically but they must not judge the worth of themselves Intelligence - good grades are of valuable but we must appreciate great effort even more Material possessions - man's life does not consist in the abundance of his possessions - Luke 12:15 |
2008-12-30 - Raising Awesome Kids - Mistakes Parents Make 1. Being basically critical If you mostly see the negative things about your kids - what they will see about themselves 2. Failing to teach Teach the basics - throw a ball 3. Failing to express praise and admiration Say what we love, like, respect, and appreciation 4. Spending little or no exclusive time Always too busy - then you are too busy They will conclude that they are unimportant and worthless 5. Showing favoritism Comparing to each other - will breed frustration, jealousy, and bitterness 6. Pushing too hard, too soon Let them be kids 7. Parental self-degradation Downgrade yourself in front of your children Will hurt their view of life and of themselves 8. Living our lives through our children End up pushing your kids into things they don't really care about |
2008-12-31 - Raising Awesome Kids - How to Nuture Confidence (part 1) Only proper foundation is their relationship with God Develops confidence without cockiness Stress a relationship with God Focus on character - Tell your children over and over again that heart and attitude matter to God Applaud effort than ability Two of three men were successful because of their efforts not their ability - Matthew 25 Enough openness
Search out your kids strengths - everyone has at least some It is your job to help children discover and succeed in those things |
2009-01-01 - Raising Awesome Kids - How to Nuture Confidence (part 2) Help them improve in areas of weakness Encourage your children to be well-rounded Academics are too important to neglect just because it does not come easy Examples:
Help them form upbuilding friendships All young people need to belong to a group If they are generally outsiders:
If you can't help someone be better or if either one of you makes the other a worse person, then you can not be friends |
2009-01-02 - Raising Awesome Kids - How to Nuture Confidence (part 3) Teach them to appreciate and applaud the efforts and achievements of others
Be basically encouraging Be your children's biggest fan If you are fundamentally positive - when you give correction it will be received with thankfulness rather than discouragement Some say - 5 compliments to overcome one criticism Human nature flourishes on a diet of praise |
2009-01-03 - Raising Awesome Kids - Foundations of a Spiritual Family Spiritual = to be on the inside what we trying to do one the outside: to be genuine, not to live a pretense of religious performance but to function out of a sincere relationship with God A spiritual family is where:
We can not take our families where we have not gone Children can spot a fake We must be:
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2009-01-04 - Raising Awesome Kids - Prayer We should pray for our children continually To protect them, guide them, save them, and one day take them to heaven Paul - Prayed day and night to Timothy - 2 Timothy 1:3 Most powerful weapon available in their spiritual defense and offense We must pray with our children as well Regular times such as bedtime and mealtime to start Praying while going to place like church are also helpful In times of difficulty and great challenge - we can do nothing without his blessing What if they do not want to pray? Talk about how God wants to be close to them Do not do other activities are bedtime either, too tired for prayer than to tired for _______ |
2009-01-05 - Raising Awesome Kids - Discipling Times These are times set to spend alone time with your child to talk with them, teach them the Bible, and pray with them Can begin as soon as your child can communicate fairly well Never let discipling times become boring and burdensome duty Try to go somewhere out of the house if possible Try to have set hours Select a topic and verse to share Realize that there may be a different topic that need to be discuss depending on the situation Compare notes with your spouse Read verses together > Talk about them > Take action > Share with the rest of the family These are incredible times to draw your children closer to God and you |
2009-01-07 - Raising Awesome Kids - Devotion to Church Love the brotherhood - 1 Peter 2:17 If you have a positive, loving attitudes about the church, your kids will too If you notice that things were not done excellently - pitch in and help make it better Teach your kids to respect their Bible class teachers If you have problem with someone - don't speak inappropriately in front of your kids
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2009-01-12 - Raising Awesome Kids - Genuine Appreciation Appreciation for one another does not come about by accident Must teach it, talk about it, show it and confront the ways the kids are not expressing it - only way Cultivate appreciation by creating as many situations as possible where it expressed in words Encourage your family to begin expressing respect, appreciation, and encouragement - whole atmosphere will change Pleasant words are sweet to the soul - Proverbs 16:24 Teach your older children how to lead and teach your younger ones how to follow
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2009-01-13 - Raising Awesome Kids - Openness Instead, speak the truth in love - Ephesians 4:15 An open family is a close family Children should believe that we care enough to give them our full attention; will not fly off the handle Openness is not limited to parents and children - includes the children with one another King Saul - filled with jealousy and envy and held in his feelings Parent should be concerned for a child that holds everything in |
2009-01-18 - Jesus with People - Grateful Son Mary and Jesus - no greater pain than for parent to bury a child and live with that memory Jesus stops the process of redeeming humanity to focus on one final moment with him mom All excuses for neglecting our families die with Jesus - spends final moment and thinking how to provide for her Jesus submitted himself to being human - learned the lesson to honor your mother - Exodus 20:12 4x in the gospels - Jesus relates to Mary:
Busy disciples - often neglect the needs our immediate family? Husbands - too busy to listen to our wives? Parents - too busy to invest in our relationship with our children? When we neglect to provide for our relative - we deny the faith - 1 Timothy 5:7-8 Jesus won Mary's soul with a relationship |
2009-01-30 - Jesus with People - Greatest in th Kingdom I tell you the truth, unless you change and become like little children, you will never enter the kingdom of heaven - Matthew 18:1-4 Father in heaven is not willing that any of these little ones should be lost - Matthew 18:12-14 We need to become like children in a very specific way Our human nature wants to be first and to have control Matthew 18 were driven by the same desire - they asked Jesus "Who is the greatest?" When become like little children, we become like Jesus Paraphrase - Because of your power-hungry pride you guys are not even in the kingdom of God, and nothing will change this fact unless you start imitating this child After Jesus' sacrifice, all his teachings made sense Having a child's humility is impossible until we understand the cross Greater love has no one than this, that he lay down his life for his friends - John 15:13 Must see other brothers and sisters in Christ as God's little spiritual children who must be cared for God's heart is that not a single person be lost Do we feel the personal responsibility for others? Who do you know who is struggling spiritually? What can you do to help them? |
2009-01-31 - Jesus with People - No Dogs in Heaven Matthew 15 - The Canaanite Women Jesus was silent and by his silent he tested and revealed both the hearts of his disciples and the heart of this woman Perhaps the instructions given earlier by Jesus send then to find the lost sheep of Israel was still in their mind Maybe thought: "he sent us to find the lost Israelite. too bad, she is a Gentile. Send her away." Jesus did not send her away but said - I was only sent to the lost sheep of Israel - Matthew 15:24 Jesus - it is not right to take the children's bread and toss it to their gods - Matthew 15:26 Savior was willing to be misunderstood in order to flush out faith or faithlessness in the heart of this woman In the end, Jesus affirmed her faith and admired her grit He did not see the woman as unsubmissive or rebellious or undeserving; he saw her as full of faith Jesus was more concerned about helping someone grow in their faith than he was keep up the nice-guy image |
2009-03-07 - Promises of God - Lord of the Unexpected One of our greatest test of faith comes when we face the unexpected We forget Psalms 91 - His faithfulness will be your shield and rampart We often rely on our own understanding of situations and then ask God what we think we need It is important to let God give us the answer since he knows what is best for us This trouble you're in is not punishment, it's training, the normal experience of children - Hebrews 12:17
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2009-03-18 - Promises of God - Produces a Harvest Hebrews 12:11 - Discipline produces a harvest of righteousness and peace for those who have been trained by it Key ways to respond to God's discipline: Get Grateful Probably the most difficult thing to do during hardships It is the very thing that will help us to learn the important lessons God is trying to teach us Hunger for Holiness Media bombards us with devices, books, etc to make our lives easier God disciplines us for our good, we may share in his holiness - Hebrews 12:10 He is willing to watch his precious children to go through temporary pain for them have eternal peace Trust the Trainer We must trust him as the perfect trainer Training = something rigorous that stretches the trainee emotionally or physically God's discipline is exact what we need and he promises it is always for our own good |
2009-03-21 - Promises of God - Formidable Foe We have a common enemy that must be overcome Described as:
He blinds the minds of individuals - 2 Corinthians 4:4 Satan takes people captive - 2 Timothy 2:26 But there is one greater... |
2009-03-26 - Promises of God - Hearts at Peace God makes clear his offer of peace Does God promise pleasing circumstances to those who trust him? No Paul, from a prison cell, said the Philippians could "peace of God which transcends understanding" - Philippians 4:7 Peace came from trusting in God - Isaiah 26:3 Trust is essential Must imitate childlike humility - Matthew 18:3-4 Children are generally are at peace They do not worry about the mortgage, stock market, bills They are content to let mom and dad tackle those issues We have to believe that God is in charge and he knows what he is doing |
2009-05-11 - No one like him - His Compassion and Love Jesus shifted focus from forceful advancement to giving to the poor Kept him up late – Mark 1:29-34 Willing to touch the untouchable – Mark 1:40-41 No time for the “healthy” – Luke 5:31 Parents trusted Jesus with their children – Matthew 19:13-15 |
2009-07-24 - A Life of Impact - Warmth Warmth Mark 9:36-37
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2009-08-20 - Wild at Heart - Intro (part 2) Deep within man there are some fundamental questions Who am I? What am I made of? What am I destined for? Today’s man Endless hours at the computer Requires man to be efficient and punctual Is this what boys dream of? Where are the real men? Did you ever dream of being a nice guy? We are told we don’t know how to: Keep our promises Talk to our wives Raise our children Some women want passive men Wonder why they have no access to their heart God made the masculine heart – Come live out what I meant you to be He does not make generic people – man/women |
2009-10-15 - Wild at Heart - Offering our Strength (part 1) Man come to offer his strength, woman invites the man into herself Requires courage and vulnerability and selflessness for both of them Man must rise to the occasion, must move, women opens herself in stunning vulnerability Man spills himself - sweet is the death Life is created When a man withholds himself from his woman, he leaves her without the life only he can bring She is made for and craves words from him - Proverbs 18:21 If a man refuses to offer himself, then his wife will remain empty and barren Silent man starves his wife A man who leaves - he sacrifices them (wife and children) rather than for them Examples:
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2009-10-19 - Wild at Heart - An adventure to live (part 2) Most spend the energy of their lives trying to eliminate risk Their children hear “no” far more than they hear “yes” If a man succeeds in securing his life against all risk, he will wind up in a cocoon of self-protection and wonder why he is suffocating Seizing upon some sort of competence and rejecting anything that cannot be controlled This a refusal to trust God and reach out for control – runs deep in every man False self’s desire is to have power over experience – to control events and consequences - Mark 8:36 Too may men forsake their dreams because they aren’t willing to risk or fear they aren’t up to the challenge or are never told that those desire of the heart are good Soul of a man isn’t made for controlling things His job is charter to explore, build, conquer, and care for all creation If you had permission to do what you really wanted to do, what would you do? "How" is a faithless question – How is God’s department… Ask "what" What is written on your heart? What make you come alive? Don’t ask yourself what does the world need. Ask yourself what make you come alive and go do that because what the world needs is people who have come alive I’ve met men who’ve used advice like it was permission They are deceived about what they really want Goal of Christian discipleship is the transformed heart We move from boy who needs the Law to the man who is able to live by the Spirit of the Law Live freely, animated and motivated by God’s Spirit then you won’t feed on compulsion or selfishness |
2009-11-23 - Master Plan - Selection (part 2)
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2009-11-26 - Master Plan - Association (part 2)
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2009-11-28 - Master Plan - Church is the continuing fellowship (part 1)
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2010-01-03 - Kingdom First - Making Peace with God Blessed are the peacemakers, for they will called sons of God - Matthew 5:9 World knows little peace - God wages peace The heart of God is to be at peace with man In order to have peace with God, we must resolve war(s) in our heart Peace is not conflict avoidance, it is resolution after a spiritual war Only those who know God can make peace that endures Once alienated from God and enemies - Colossians 1:21 After humbling our hearts and mourning over our sin - we become his children, part of the family Keep peace is an on-going process Our lives must be continually cleansed from sin What is your level of peace? Have worries rob you of your trust in God? |
2010-01-24 - Kingdom First - Wise Investing Jesus is not interested in our obedience outwardly without having our hearts set on heaven
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2010-01-27 - Kingdom First - Personal Responsibility (part 1) Things have not changed much since the begging of time The woman you put here gave me some fruit - Genesis 3:12 We crave a scape goat:
Must confront the planks in our own lives Instead should admonish one another - Colossians 1:28-29 Build each other up through contructive challenges - Ephesians 4:29 |