2009-01-02 - Raising Awesome Kids - How to Nuture Confidence (part 3) Teach them to appreciate and applaud the efforts and achievements of others
Be basically encouraging Be your children's biggest fan If you are fundamentally positive - when you give correction it will be received with thankfulness rather than discouragement Some say - 5 compliments to overcome one criticism Human nature flourishes on a diet of praise |
2009-01-07 - Raising Awesome Kids - Devotion to Church Love the brotherhood - 1 Peter 2:17 If you have a positive, loving attitudes about the church, your kids will too If you notice that things were not done excellently - pitch in and help make it better Teach your kids to respect their Bible class teachers If you have problem with someone - don't speak inappropriately in front of your kids
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2009-01-09 - Raising Awesome Kids - Childrens Quiet Times Having their own quiet times is the best way for them to know God and enjoy him personally - develops their own faith Younger years (preschool and early elementary) - sit down with them a couple of mornings a week Later elementary - they can begin to have them on their own - 10 minutes a session Create a structure for them Write down what they learn ACTS like prayers Older - direct them toward Proverbs, Psalms, and the Gospels - always keep up with how it is going Pushing them too quickly = overwhelmed kids Not challenging them enough = leave a vacuum for them to be filled by the world Pray for wisdom, get wise counsel, and trust God will guide you |
2009-01-12 - Raising Awesome Kids - Genuine Appreciation Appreciation for one another does not come about by accident Must teach it, talk about it, show it and confront the ways the kids are not expressing it - only way Cultivate appreciation by creating as many situations as possible where it expressed in words Encourage your family to begin expressing respect, appreciation, and encouragement - whole atmosphere will change Pleasant words are sweet to the soul - Proverbs 16:24 Teach your older children how to lead and teach your younger ones how to follow
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2009-01-13 - Raising Awesome Kids - Openness Instead, speak the truth in love - Ephesians 4:15 An open family is a close family Children should believe that we care enough to give them our full attention; will not fly off the handle Openness is not limited to parents and children - includes the children with one another King Saul - filled with jealousy and envy and held in his feelings Parent should be concerned for a child that holds everything in |
2009-10-10 - Wild at Heart - The Strategy (part 3) 2. Intimidation Our condition may become normal to use after a while - depression If you pray and fight against – It will get worse. Once the Enemy is discovered, he usually does not just roll over and die. Jesus says get tough and resist the onslaught Next level Satan tries intimidation and fear He wants you to agree with intimidation because he fears you Fighting back, he will lose – Resist the devil and he will flee – James 4:7 Why do so many pastor’s kids go off the deep end? Evil One is trying to an old tactic – strike first and maybe the opposition will run He can’t win, you know God is with us “As I was with Moses, so I will be with you” – Joshua 1:5 The Lord is a warrior, the Lord is his name – Exodus 15:3 How did Jesus win the battle against Satan? God was with him Doesn’t simply mean that he’ll be around - he will fight for us Satan is trying to appeal to the traitor’s commitment to self-preservation when he uses fear and intimidation. So as long as we are back in the old story of saving our skin, looking out for Number One, those tactics will work. Become a warrior The most dangerous man on earth is the man who has reckoned with his own death. All men die, few men ever really live. |
2009-11-08 - Repentance - Transfigure Our Minds (part 1) We each have a worldview or mindset that functions as a life lens World has been squeezing us into its mold – more than we realize Peter’s mind
Prepare your minds for action – 1 Peter 1:13-14 Space shuttle takes 2,250,000 pounds of fuel to escape the earth’s gravity Only few pounds to remain in orbit – Christians are called more than just to orbit Most trials produce greater faith – hospitalized child, illness, death, ministry turmoil, financial pressures Ways to fight – devote time to prayer, read scripture, explore ways to encourage wife, get advice from elders, spend special time with the kids Ways to not to – laziness, frustrate wife, neglect kids, feeling overwhelmed and under underappreciated, escape to the TV |
2010-04-21 - Stumbling Block or Stepping Stone (part 2) Preached by Maurice Hooks John 13:34-35 - How quick am I to sacrifice for my brother and sister? Romans 13:8 - Being a stepping stone means you make the decsion to love people Have the attitude of Christ - ...Philippians 2:1-7 Build others up - Ephesians 4:29-31 Strive to make others great - John 3:27-30 Challenges for the week:
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2010-06-20 - Building the temple (part 1) Preached by Damon Pabts on 2002-03-03 1 Chronicles 28:9-10
Building Yourself1 Chronicles 29:1-4
Give everything to build1 Chronicles 29:2-4
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2010-11-02 - Contagious Christian - Throwing a Matthew Party Throwing your own Matthew party fulfills a modest purposes
Good examples of Matthew parties:
Another misconception is that we have add a lot of new activities to our schedules Examples of everyday activities to get people involved in:
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2011-02-25 - Counting the Cost (part I) Purpose: We want to review things with you to answer any questions or help with situations that could occur. Luke 14:25-27
1 John 1:5-10
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2011-09-29 - Proverbs on Laziness (part I) Proverbs 18:9 - One who is slack in his work is brother to one who destroys
The sluggard is the spiritual three (3) toed sloth. The Bible has nothing good to say about the sloth.
Proverbs 26:14 - As a door turns on its hinges, so a sluggard turns on his bed
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2011-10-10 - Genesis 10 - Genealogies (part II)SummaryJapheth's line lived in the coastlands; Ham's included Nimrod and the Canaanites; Shem's lived in the East. These formed the nations. ObservationsGenesis 10:4 - peoples spread out ... each with its own language Personal ApplicationI am convicted on how fast families can be divided by Satan. How things can change and a heart is no longer are responsive in a relationship. I need to start ASAP. I am going to make sure my children know God, his word and what it means to have an amazing relationship with Him. |
2011-10-15 - Genesis 15 - Abraham Believed God SummaryThe Lord promised Abram an heir and many descendants. Abram believed. He was told that they would be enslaved but would then return. ObservationsGenesis 15:6 - Abram believed the LORD ... credited it to him as righteousness Personal ApplicationSometimes I believe that perseverance is my strength but as I look at my prayers for the desires of my heart, I give up way easily. "But it has not happened in 2 weeks, 2 months, 2 years" - I say. Abram waited until he was 100 years for his son to be born. |
2012-03-16 - Instilling Faith in Children (part II) They need to see Jesus - Deuteronomy 6:1-9 God did not want his people to forget him What did he want them to remember?
All these things he still wants us to remember In what ways can we show our kids, Jesus?
v 20-24 - The questions will come; opportunities to share more With a Watchful Eye - 1 Timothy 4:15-16 They will not be a Christian and stay a Christian by chance |
2012-08-02 - Genesis 21 - The Birth of IsaacSummaryAs promised, Sarah had a son: Isaac. She had Hagar and Ishmael sent away but God preserved them. Abraham and Abimelech made a treaty. ObservationsGenesis 21:1 - The LORD visited Sarah just as he had said he would and did for Sarah what he had promised Personal ApplicationI need to unmoved by the changing seas around me. I go all over the place on where I stand on giving to others without resolve. Need to be consistent as I faithfully follow the Lord. |
2013-06-25 - Why we need men of resolution (part II) Our relationship with our father is very telling as to why we are and who we are. “What does my dad really think about me?” Lots of fathers don’t realize their vital role. Many issues come from fathers having lost their sense of purpose. Society is guiding boys to remain boys as long as possible— extending childhood into their thirties—while forcing girls to become women long before they are ready. Millions of young men are staying single. They want the privileges and rewards of manhood but only the responsibilities and moral requirements of boys. God has a special place in His heart for two specific groups of people: fatherless children and widows. Dad have good intention but there many things working against them:
Devil will never stop attacking what God prioritizes. |
2013-06-26 - Why we need men of resolution (part III) Fathers are to reveal and represent God All fatherhood comes from Him (Ephesians 3:14–15). Should be able to see these qualities of God:
The word father means “founder, source, chief, or leader.” Godhead described, it is always God the Father first, then the Son, then the Holy Spirit. Want to know what God is like? then just look at Jesus. Are representing your heavenly Father? Thist is your priceless purpose.
Great homes don’t just happen, need to be intentionally cultivated and guarded. Let truth, love, and wise discipline become constant ingredients of fathering. |
2013-10-21 - Resolve to Lead Your Family The greater responsibility to raise your children is yours. When the dad leads, kids are up to twenty times more likely to stay in church long-term than when moms are the spiritual leaders at home
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2013-10-22 - Leadership Founded in Love Jesus Christ founded his empire on love God not only wants you to lead your family but deeply love them Children feel much more secure if they know their parents love each other. Don’t wait for her. Step up and be the leader God meant you to be. It’s never easy. |
2013-10-23 - Protect Them Fathers are the primary protectors - physically, emotionally, and spiritually.
When a strong man, fully armed, guards his own house, his possessions are undisturbed - Luke 11:21 You should not only guard your own heart but your wife’s as well Teaches your children to love wisdom instead of developing a greater appetite for the world. The older your kids get, the more they will need to understand the rationale behind your rules. |
2014-01-25 - Bless Your Children We need to boldly redefined success for them = “You shall love the LORD your God with all your heart and with all your soul and with all your might” - Deuteronomy 6:5 1. God’s Word must “be on your heart.” Must always tell them how God is moving:
Every day gives you fresh, new material for making your life with Christ a front-row experience 2. Training your children to love God must occur within the context of close relationships. Talk about God is informal time:
Making disciples of all nations begins with your own children - it all starts with their hearts.
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2014-01-27 - The Heart of a Child You can be the greatest explainer of truth. But if the very heart of your son or daughter does not believe ‘my daddy loves me,’ they will walk away. Restore the hearts of the fathers to their children and the hearts of the children to their fathers - Malachi 4:6 You can tell when a father doesn’t have his kids’ hearts. You sense the disrespect and anger, the bitterness and emotional distance. Jesus and His Father hearts were always in sync. When Jesus felt separation from the Father, it was the worst pain he could feel. |
2014-02-19 - Heart Hindrances (part I) The following “heart hindrances” that will push your chidren away.
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2014-02-24 - Heart Hindrances (part II) Continuing the “heart hindrances” that will push your chidren away.
You must keep your radar up to sense if you have your children’s hearts Questions to continously ask:
Too many men foolishly refuse to apologize because they’re trying to save face and don’t want to look bad.
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2014-03-04 - Heart to Heart time with our kids Fathers, start spending more “heart to heart” time ATTENTION Get their attention, ask important questions like:
Make a little one-on-one time with Dad AFFIRMATION Kids, as well as adults, want the approval and praise from their dads They want their father’s "blessing” in their lives. God: “You are My beloved Son, in You I am well-pleased” - Mark 1:11 It is important that you communicate to them, “You are my son (daughter) and I dearly love you. I am very pleased with you.” Anytime you greet them or talk to them, your countenance, the look in your eyes, and your tone of voice either says, “You are a delight to me” or “You are an irritation to me.” You should praise them privately, one-on-one, and publicly in front of others. “That is awesome! You are really good at that,” needs to come from your lips as their biggest cheerleader. Regardless of your past, step up to do this now! AFFECTION Father pours out His unconditional love on us (Romans 5:5), and so should we to our sons and daughters. Interact with them in ways that make them fully see, hear, and feel your love. not only the discipline of a father but also his warm affection and tender love. Boys who feel loved by their dads are bolder, stronger, kinder to others, and more secure Girls who feel valued by their dads are more radiant, less desperate for a boyfriend, and more careful whom they marry. So invest in them, take them places, flood them with tender affection, leaving no question in their minds about your genuine love for them. |
2014-03-22 - Train Them to Honor Authority (part II) You should actually want your leaders to succeed. You should be eager to help them fulfill their roles. This is how we should treat those over us - with a clear conscience, in respectful ways - not only from a fear of God but as a witness and an example to our children. Our kids will most likely adopt our views on authority in their own lives as well. We are accountable to Him - both to love Him and to fear Him. When you teach your children to honor authority, you are teaching them to better honor God.
Helping them not “forget his deeds” but to “keep his commands” - Psalms 78:7 Honoring authority will help them obey you. Honoring authority is a hallmark of godly men and their children.
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2014-04-04 - Disciplining Your Children (part I) A major part of your role as a father is to disciple your kids Discipling your kids requires discipline on our part Discipline doesn’t feel good, nor should it - Hebrews 12:11 Discipline should be more on the father’s shoulders than the mother’s because of who we represent. Loving discipline prepares our kids to respect and obey their heavenly Father We had earthly fathers to discipline us, for they disciplined us for a short time as seemed best to them, but He disciplines us for our good - Hebrews 12:9-10 It is the father’s job is to take the long view, not the short one. Withheld discipline may seem momentarily pleasant to the child and the parent but it takes no skill or courage to be a passive father Not disciplining guarantees that uncorrected sin will follow his child into adulthood and follow his family into the coming generations Its momentary discomfort - knowing that sin will harm a child in far worse ways than even the painful discipline of a loving father. He who loves him disciplines him promptly - Proverbs 13:24 Train up a child in the way he should go; even when he is old he will not depart from it - Proverbs 22:6 IT is a lie from the Enemy to believe that rebelling against and dishonoring authority brings more freedom and peace Bring them up in the training and instruction of the Lord - Ephesians 6:4
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2015-04-02 - In Control Joseph: So it was God who sent me here, not you! - Genesis 45:8 Joseph's hear and mind had made peace with his treacherous brothers He firmly believed that the God who remains in control of all things had sent him to Egypt When one of your kids defies everything you save or your job moves in a different direction, how do you react? Do negative emotions to rule the day or take refuge in God who is in control? God has an amazing way of using even the worst circumstances for your good Like you, Joseph did know the events ahead of him, he had to move forward by faith |
2015-09-05 - Sound Judgement We alone will build the Temple for the Lord just as KIng Cyrus of Persia commanded us - Ezra 4:3 It is important to guard against those who try to lead you away from a strong, biblical faith Zerubbabel had good judgement overseeing the building of an alter to the Lord and the rebuild of the holy Temple This got the attention of some traditional adversaries who offered to help with highly suspect motives It was tempting to get the work done faster but Zerubbabel said thanks but no thanks We need to have sound judgement in who spends time with your family and what images you and your kids should view and the activities you choose |